I will probably never completely get over not having a fourth child. Selfish, I know, and I am eternally grateful for the three healthy beautiful children I have, what can I say…I wanted one more.
It has been 13 years since I needed to come up with a name to give a human being to last them a whole life. That one name..that would define them, make them identifiable. It is an insurmountable task and quite often the best names…just come up on the fly. Like they say…”Don’t overthink it!”
I grew up with many family names...Lesli Jean (my Mom was Bonnie Jean), Mallory (My Dad’s Mom’s maiden name )and Smith, (my maiden name). Lesli Jean Mallory Smith. A mouthful. All four of us Smith kids had family names and the only thing I knew going in to naming my own children, was that I wanted NEW names…not family names.
When Cooper was born I could not decide on his name for a day. I knew I was having a boy and I had already used my dream name “Tate”…Coming up with a second boy name was harder than I thought. I arrived at the hospital with two names in my pocket…”Cooper” which was a name I had intended to call Phoebe if she was a boy and “Mack”…because I liked the sound of it. It would be short for McCoy, after the famous Jazz musician. But then, I did so love Cooper, I mean, the name just makes me smile. So I decided to wait until I met this boy….then name him.
So I met him, such a hearty fellow… all 8 lbs 6 oz of him, chubby and feisty…I was stumped. Mack or Cooper? Cooper…or Mack? He was born at 9:47 pm and 12 hours later, I had still not decided when my highschool friend Jill called to congratulate me.
“JILL, help me I cannot decide between “Cooper” or “Mack”…!!!”
…and my dear friend Jill, never the one to sugarcoat things simply said…
“My son knows a boy named “Mack” and he is not nice…go with Cooper.”
Now, I know that there are many fine Mack’s out there, stellar ones even, but this is what I needed to just make this huge decision. That was the tipping point and he has been Cooper ever since and I have not for a moment looked back.
I did not find out what we were having, boy or girl, with Phoebe. I had my baby boy, Tate, and deep down I wished for a girl but I did not for one moment to feel anything but joy about the new life I carried, so I resisted the temptation. I had many dreams I was having a girl. But, awake, I was certain I was having another boy. I even have video of me teaching baby Tate how to say “Cooper” …Just in case…I had narrowed down the girl choices to “Phoebe” and “Piper”…but was pretty sure It would not matter as I was having a boy…But then, this tiny tomato faced wrinkly little peanut arrived 3 weeks early and the MOMENT I met her, I knew …
….she had always been Phoebe.
So just for FUN…Here are my CURRENT BABY NAME CHOICES. I am not around the baby set these days so have little idea what are the “IN” names…I do hear “AIDEN” a lot..when I am in Barnes and Noble and Moms are reading to their little ones…
These are just names that I love. Irony of all ironies… MANY of these are family names.
August, Charlie, Ford, Gus, James, John, Leo, Mike, Stanley, Trevor,
Bonnie, Frannie, Jane, Jean, June, Millie, Patty, Penelope, Ruth, Zooey
What are your top 5 favorite baby names???