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Once a year – I do a Memorial day Post.

and not JUST a Memorial Day post – but THIS Memorial Day post.

I think it is because this story connects me to the origin of my understanding of “Memorial”.

I grew up during the Vietnam war. In the 1970s, we wore Prisoner of War,

POW Bracelets and Missing in Action,

MIA Bracelets bearing the name of a captured or lost soldier.

We did this to keep this person in our hearts and minds, even if we did not know them personally. We proudly wore these bracelets, and some still do, as a symbol of hope that the POW’s and MIA’s would return home to their families.


When I wore my MIA bracelet, I was a kid…I knew little about what the Vietnam war REALLY meant except that it dominated the conversation every day and the news every night. When would it end? Why were they fighting? How many were killed today? When is your big brother leaving?

Living in Tampa Florida, many of my friends had family members in the service and some were even missing in action.


Mr Olmstead was one year younger than my Dad. I bought my bracelet for $1.00 from a girl who was selling them to raise money for the families of servicemen missing in action. I thought about the day when Stanley and I  would meet and I would tell him I wore his bracelet and never took it off even to shower and I would offer him the bracelet as a memento.


MY MIA was LCDR Stanley Edward Olmstead. He was from Marshall Oklahoma and was born on November 12, 1933. He was in the US Navy in the Fighter Squadron 84. He was also a father; his daughter Dixie was 2 and her brother, Mickey was 5, when their father’s F-4 Phantom was gunned down by North Vietnamese artillery fire on Oct. 17, 1965.

I have copied the story of his mission and loss from POWNETWORK.

Here is an excerpt :

“SYNOPSIS: LT Roderick Mayer was a pilot assigned to the aircraft carrier USS INDEPENDENCE (CVA-62). On October 17, 1965 he and his Radar Intercept Officer (RIO), LTJG David Wheat launched in their F4B Phantom fighter jet for a day strike mission on the Thai Nguyen bridge northeast of Hanoi.

On the same day, a second Phantom flown by LCDR Stanley E. Olmstead, with LTJG Porter A. Halyburton as his RIO, and a third Phantom flown by LTJG Ralph Gaither and LTJG Rodney A/ Knutson also launched from the USS INDEPENCENCE. These four pilots were part of Fighter Squadron 84, the “Jolly Rogers”. Mayer and Wheat were part of the carriers Fighter Squadron 41. All were dispatched to the same general mission area near the city of Thai Nguyen.

The three Phantoms were all shot down within a few miles of each other. Knutson and Gaither were shot down in Long Song Province, North Vietnam, near the border of China, or about 75 miles northeast of the city of Thai Nguyen. Olmstead and Halyburton were shot down in Long Son Province about 40 miles east of the city of Thai Nguyen. Mayer and Wheat were shot down about 55 miles east-northeast of the city of Thai Nguyen, in Long Son Province.

The fates of these six men from the USS INDEPENDENCE was not clear at the time they were shot down. Their status changed from Reported Dead to Prisoner of War or Missing in Action. At the end of the war, only Olmstead and Mayer remained missing. Ultimately, they were declared dead for lack of evidence that they were still alive.

When the war ended, refugees from the communist-overrun countries of Southeast Asia began to flood the world, bringing with them stories of live GI’s still in captivity in their homelands. Since 1975, nearly 10,000 reports relating to Americans missing in Southeast Asia have been received. Many authorities believe that hundreds of Americans are still held in the countries in Southeast Asia.

The U.S. Government operates on the “assumption” that one or more men are being held, but that it cannot “prove” that this is the case, allowing action to be taken. Meanwhile, low-level talks between the U.S. and Vietnam proceed, yielding a few sets of remains when it seems politically expedient to return them, but as yet, no living American has returned.

…….Stanley E. Olmstead was promoted to the rank of Commander during the period he was maintained missing. Porter A. Halyburton was promoted to the rank of Lieutenant Commander during the period he was maintained as a prisoner of war.


the following addendum was added to the bio..years later…and proved very significant …..

“Hello,…..I have a slight correction to make. I say slight, but depending on your point of view, it’s major.

The RIO, Porter Halyburton, is a friend of mine. Here is his account of what happened that day: “When we were hit I called to Stan, but he didn’t respond. His head was slumped down and he was unresponsive. As the ridgeline was coming up, I had to eject immediately and did so. Seconds later, the aircraft crashed into the ridgeline. There was a large explosion upon impact, as we had a full load of ordnance. I was able to observe the aircraft the entire time from when I ejected until it crashed. Stan did not eject.”

The ridgeline Porter refers to was to be their turning point. Upon arrival at the ridgeline, they were to head due west to the target at Thai Nguyen.

While it is true that no one saw Porter eject, largely because no one was looking when they were hit, someone (Porter) DID watch the plane, and therefore Stan Olmstead, from the time it was hit until it crashed.

Porter said he had clear field of vision as he slowly drifted down to earth. He could clearly see, much to his dismay, that LCDR. Stanley Olmstead did not eject prior to impact.

Porter Halyburton, while retired from the Navy, is currently an instructor at the Naval War College in Rhode Island

Regards, Doug”


STANLEY EDWARD OLMSTEAD is honored on Panel 2E, Row 125 of the Vietnam Veterans Memorial. I visited the Memorial a few years ago…there are few words to describe it’s impact…and I saw CDR Olmstead’s name…it was a profoundly moving experience. 

CDR Olmstead went missing 50 years ago. He would be a senior citizen now and maybe even a Grandfather. He would have watched Mickey and Dixie grow up. The information we now have about what happened to servicemen, captured, tortured, and held as prisoners sometimes for years is daunting. The cycle has far from stopped, even if the names of the battles have changed…

Photo credit – Michael_Kleinberg







 After the original writing of this post I gathered more information on Commander Olmsted. This article from the STAR TELEGRAM  touchingly follows his children’s search for information regarding their father’s crash and attempts to find remains of some kind –

“It would mean quite a bit to me,” Mickey Olmstead said. “If they found something, some fragments or remnants of his remains, it would allow us to have a burial ceremony at the Arlington National Cemetery. I’ve known a lot of children who have had their father’s remains returned, and they said that it was pretty special, a very meaningful event that meant a lot to them.”
Read more here:”

I also found a great site called  VIRTUAL WALL which connects readers to the Vietnam Memorial wall and read messages from family and even others who wore the bracelet of Commander Olmsted .

THIS POEM was contributed by his sister.


6 Aug 2004A loyal son
A loving father
A devoted brother.
Always my hero,
Always in my heart.

From his sister,
Carolyn McClelland


Navigator Porter Halyburton, (on left) and LCMR Stanley Olmstead, pose in front of the F-4 Phantom they flew missions in over Vietnam Contributed by the Olmstead family Handout photo Read more here:

LCMR Stanley Olmstead (left) an unidentified officer and LJGR J.G. Perry


that you can go to and find out about each person listed on the Vietnam Memorial.

If you have a moment you might want to visit this site, and read about a hero.

Thank you.

Thank you for your service. We honor you.


MOST RECENTLY – I saw this very special updated memory

  • Every Christmas

    POSTED ON 5/18/18 – BY T. BEAL

    “I put my Stanley Olmstead MIA bracelet on the Christmas tree in honor of him, of my friend Richard D. B. Shepherd who stepped on a land mine in the Iron Triangle, of the many who accepted service no matter what they knew of the politics, including some who knew if they did not serve, some poor American would be put in their place… and for all the Vietnamese caught up on either side of the post colonial/cold war.”


Photo Taken by Gabe Gall:”This old barn on Holmesmill Road in Hornerstown, NJ has an American Flag painted on its doors. It’s just one of the many cool things to see when driving down the back roads of South Jersey.”
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5 thoughts on “MEMORIAL DAY

  1. I love this! I remember hearing about the war on the news in the ‘70s. I remember my friends big brothers or dads leaving. I remember the bomb shelters and the signs on businesses indicating the safe places to run to in case of an attack. I wish I had one of those bracelets. That is an amazing way to bring a human touch to the war. I also thank the men and women who have protected us and fought for our freedoms. Especially those who have given the ultimate sacrifice. Thank you for your blog article. It was very moving.

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