MY ADVICE OF THE DAY – LIFE IS TOO SHORT
In the old days of decorating…
….defined by me as “before the INTERNET revolutionized, transformed, demolished…
changed the way we decorate”…
I loved to decorate and could talk, read, learn about it for hours …but I was not in the majority and was often (affectionately) teased and called “Martha Stewart”.
In the EARLY 2000’s , I stuck with my beloved magazines for decorating inspiration and advice, I was raising very young children and really did not have time to indulge my passion. More often than not, I would have to wait for a stomach flu to give me time to look at all the beautiful rooms and dream about what I might do…some day..when I have time.
Somewhere, around 2006-2007 that all started to change. It is weird the way it all happened. It is kind of like the first ones who got to the store, got to BUY the store. Some were GREAT and had talent and some, not so much. Some were genius at marketing themselves while others kept it small and followed the “if you build it” they will come path. And in the early days, which did not last long, it was considered “selling out” to monetize your blog…but like I said, that did not last long. Because right about then….the economy tanked and some of my favorite magazines disappeared…including my beloved newcomer DOMINO, and we all turned more to the internet than ever for guidance.
Then, seemingly overnight, the internet exploded with design blogs and stores, and blogs became Stores and Stores started blogs…New babies named Pinterest and Houzz AND INSTAGRAM were born, You-tube grabbed a hold of the visual learners and we won’t even talk about HGTV and all of it’s relatives. LITERALLY – You can spend all day, everyday, reading and watching all the possible things you could do….make, fix, paint, design, ditch, change, love and hate. I KNOW THIS…BECAUSE I HAVE!
Colors are now IN or very OUT.…LIKE poor old Marsala… and if they are really really lucky they get to be “the COLOR OF THE YEAR!” !! Lots and lots of money is being spent and made helping people have the perfect house and everybody has the tools they need to become their own decorator – even if they don’t have the time or really – deep deep down don’t really care.
ALL OF THIS HAPPENED IN A RELATIVELY VERY VERY SHORT SPAN OF TIME….
– AND oh, one more thing …. NOW – EVERYONE has a book…and I OWN MANY of them…
I categorize my books.THERE ARE the 1. ART BOOKS (My personal Faves), 2. the “HOW TO” books, 3. THE DESIGNER PORTFOLIO BOOKS, 4. The “KEEP IT SIMPLE ” books, and the 5. “COLLECTION of GREAT rooms/EYE CANDY” books. I like many of them…some I even would go so far as to say, I LOVE and have given as gifts….but I do find it pleasantly ironic ….and …..
IT IS NO WONDER THAT THIS IS THE BOOK WE ARE ALL RUNNING FOR NOW!!!
WHERE AM I GOING WITH ALL OF THIS? WHAT IS MY POINT?
MY POINT IS THIS – In a very very short span of time we have gone from a culture of people who lived and were quite content in our “undecorated” and “un-styled” homes.. And while “keeping up with the Jone’s” is not a new phenomenon…MOST people did not judge themselves as unsuccessful because they did not have an up to trend kitchen or the right color Gray walls. You decorated more for yourself…because for the most part…you would be the only one who saw your home.
Now everyone sees everything.
You home is where you live. YOU. Not me. It is YOUR home. Fill YOUR home with what makes YOU happy. If you need guidance, look for it, or hire it, but don’t get lost in the looking.GET A FEW GOOD BOOKS…but again, try not to overwhelm yourself. This, I know is NOT easily accomplished. Sometimes you just need to turn it off.
I spent hours online last night and was frightened to see how homogenous home decor is becoming. And even if they don’t say it, and believe me, some do…there is being touted a RIGHT and a WRONG way…and that, my friend , is the number one killer of creativity.
My goal…my NEW PLEDGE with this blog is to help you find the YOU in your home. If you have a favorite color…USE IT. FIND YOUR STYLE. It does not matter if it is not “THE COLOR OF THE YEAR” – Go crazy! IT IS YOUR HOUSE. If you like plaid with stripes and florals with shabby chic faux aged furniture…that is YOUR right. LIKE what YOU LIKE not what your THINK you SHOULD like or what you think or what they tell you …would make you more HIP to like…like… like… like…we cannot “like” everything!.
Take a break from all of it and find YOUR style and YOUR taste. KEEP IT IN PERSPECTIVE.
LIFE IS JUST TOO SHORT.