It is rainy and gloomy here today . And I am in a bit of a funk .
Ever happen to you?
Nothing in particular …just feel BLAH.
I am a pretty private person. This is not the say that if we sat down to catch up on our lives, I would be withholding and make you pry things out of me…but I tend to prefer to work though my “issues” privately.
What are my issues you ask? …probably much the same as yours…just LIFE, marriage, kids, family , work, house, money, health, friends…I don’t like burdening people with my “stuff” because I feel like everyone has their stuff.
There are always pressing matters.. REAL problems…the stuff that keeps me busy and often distracts me…raising kids is one sure fire way to put your needs on the back burner… And often in a good way you are distracted from too much thinking . I find myself saying “In the BIG PICTURE” this is NOTHING…but sometimes the little picture can become a big picture if left untended.
and Sometimes I just feel BLAH.
anyway… one advantage of my age is that I am well aware that “this too shall pass”. In fact, quite often it is when I am in these EXACT BLAH moments of discomfort that I find REAL change happens. Like an egg hatching.
I THOUGHT i would share with you have found some ways I manage MYSELF when I hit these emotional mud puddles… They do work…and have brought me out of many a funk. Or at the very least – have taken me outside of myself and the next thing I know – I am back IN MY LIFE and no longer on the outside looking in a sizing things up.
1. I paint. write. create. make something…even dinner. This sounds so easy…but often it is not. But the simple act of putting one foot in front of the other…is a step in the right direction. MOVE.
2. Exercise. I do not exercise because I am trying to have a perfect body or be skinny – I exercise because EVERY SINGLE TIME I do – I feel better. I sweat. I get out of my head. I see friends at the gym and have little conversations. It is a win win. It is my sanity.
3. EAT WELL. Some people stress eat. I tend to lose my appetite when I am stressed and quickly become depleted. Then I will eat something sweet or gross. Last year, I changed how I eat inspired by my brother-in-law who lost over 50 lbs totally by changing the way he approached food and exercise…Jason inspired me to take stock of my eating habits and when I did – it was eye opening! I have never liked to cook and to make a meal and sit down mid-day felt silly! BUT – I changed that – I started making SURE that I ate a healthy lunch which included protein (I am a bar for breakfast eater) and I removed as much sugar from my diet as I could. I replaced Power Bars with “real protein” like a hard boiled egg or a tuna sandwich and ate more than I had in years and I lost 15 lbs that have not come back. And I have never felt better. I had NO IDEA how bad my “not eating” was making me feel. By the way – Congrats to Jason – A week ago today he ran the Boston Marathon!!!!
4. Make a Lunch date. Or a coffee date. Expanding on the eating thing – what better way to kill two birds with one stone than to make a lunch date with a friend at favorite little place that serves delicious healthy food. Or a great burger ! I can get in a rut and it can sometimes take weeks to land on a day that works for both of you – but lunch with a friend is such a great way to feel better.
5. DO SOMETHING FOR SOMEONE- One of the BEST ways to come out of a funk is to leave yourself and do something for someone else. Volunteer. Open a door. Pay the toll for the person behind you. Make someone dinner, or paint them a painting, take them flowers from your garden – or just send them a card. I keep a stock of cards for all occasions in my drawer and I always feel so good when I drop one in a mailbox. The art of letter writing is alive and well and cards are a relatively inexpensive way to cheer someone up and remind them that they are special to you. Email and texting is so much faster but it is so nice to get a piece of mail out of nowhere!
6. CLEAN OUT A DRAWER. This is one of those things I discovered accidentally a few years ago when I was moving. Just do ONE DRAWER. Once I found a check I thought I had lost! It just feels good.
7. Walk a DOG. Or dogs. And if you don’t have a dog you can do #5 and walk someone else’s dog. There is something refreshing about spending time with a dog…on a walk. Dogs are just so happy to be out and about…you get some fresh air and exercise…and is is a great distraction from all the THINKING and PONDERING…
8. Take a NAP. Have you ever noticed how refreshed kids are after a nap..and how tough it can be if they don’t get one? Do we ever outgrow the need for a nap? Sometimes I have been surprised to find out that I am simply TIRED. And I take a nap!
9. Get a massage or a pedicure or a facial. Manicures are great too. Treat yourself to something special . You deserve it.
10. Phone a friend , your Mom, someone who always makes you feel listened to and loved. It is not a cure-all but sometimes the simple act of talking about things can be a step in the right direction.
I know this funk will pass. Maybe it the shedding of some kind of skin. Maybe I just miss the kids . Maybe I am at a crossroads with work , this blog , my art and am taking stock and trying to see what is next. Maybe it is raining.